If you hope to find a certain type of partner to keep you company, it may help if you date to the person you’re seeking. What do I mean? That if you hope for a lady who prefers quiet nights at home to partying on the town, a bar or social gathering may not be the place to find her. If you like a guy who knows how to hold a conversation, what better place to look than an online dating site?
While this may seem common sense, if you consider how many of your single friends spend their days lamenting the lack of eligible and interesting prospects and their nights in a club, where there is little hope of making a more serious connection with people you meet, maybe the need to restate the idea becomes a bit clearer.
If religion is important in your life, you probably want to find a mate who shares that moral, spiritual viewpoint. You could spend your time in church, where meeting others may have to wait for a scheduled social event, one where all of the other available men and women will be competing for attention, or you could simply write an intriguing paragraph on your beliefs and desires, post it to your profile and then let people find you–as you are out looking through the site for them, even while you are offline.
If you are an adventurous person, looking for someone to share your love of extreme sports, outdoor exploration or who values the importance of fitness, put it out there. Boast about your greatest adventure or must-have piece of gear and ask for input. Offer to talk about trails you know or waterways you’ve traveled.
Are you a gamer who spends hours a day in a make believe universe of unusual characters and thrilling quests? Well, so are millions of other people. Gamers are not limited to young single guys; we are all ages and from all walks of life. Instead of trying to chat up someone on a public channel or hoping you encounter a sexy avatar out in the Badlands among the black dragons, announce your game of choice or preferred game style and see who strikes up a conversation.
Pet lovers, you can meet not only through your pet of choice, but by listing the breed you love, your rescue work or that you’re looking to make a dog lover out of a cat person (or vice versa). If your companions are exotic, let us know. Maybe there is a lady out there who always wondered what it took to love an iguana, or the man who loves an iguana.
If you’re into networking, there’s no reason you can’t combine business with pleasure. Make new connections for your startup and perhaps they will work out to produce more than greater income. Include a bit in your profile about the importance of work or business in your life and the type of person you’d like to reach.
Spent time in the armed forces? You may connect well with someone who shared your military experience, travel and exposure to foreign cultures. List your branch of service, rank or location of deployment. The qualities that made you a good fit for service may be just the thing to recommend you to a certain someone.
These ideas are ways to do more than just meet a date, they are ways to make friends. They make your dating site a place where you can find friendship as well as companionship. Meet people who will say hello when they see you’re around and with whom you can chat between encounters. Fellow daters can be a great source of support. They’ve been there. They are there.
You also never know where such a friendship may lead. If a man or woman gets to know you and enjoys your friendship, companionship may be a natural next step. She will see you aren’t just out to bug her for photos. He will see you have a curious mind and pleasant personality.
It’s a mystery who may be that next important person in our lives. Be open and friendly, make use of all of the resources at your disposal.
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